Foeticide, the word makes me cringe with so many strong emotions. And every time it’s talked about feels like I’m helpless. It’s really true that the man to woman ration in India has fallen over the last 20 years and continues to do so. I wish this was a lie, a lie that never existed.
If it is true that woman has been able to break barriers, she did it without invoking love for self. Her existence is still needed but existence which circles around the needs of the world where she has very little place.
The liberated woman today too kills her girl child. She is still told to bear sons. She is still told that she has not been of much good if she is not the mother of someone who takes the family name forward. Technology now helps kill a teeny little heart which still runs blood inside and outside it. Do you think the smaller the embryo is lesser you will feel sorry killing her?
What else does a woman need to do to get the status that a man still enjoys? It’s strange how India as a country has given some of the best brains to the world yet has managed to evolve such sinister customs. As if Sati wasn’t enough, which is still actively practiced in many places across the country, female foeticide is the new rape of the day.
As we have been moving towards liberalization and have been de chaining a woman from the so called customs we have missed the basic counseling and similar activities for male and others in the family to help them cope with this emergence. As a result of the dearth of this very important awareness education more women have been consumed by hateful acts by fellow humans, the number of males has gone up.
Practice of dowry system is still flourishing. It’s strange that families that kill the fetus are in fact loving parents or relatives of existing female offsprings.
Here are my 2 cents on eradicating this sin from this pious land;
- Ban sex determination. It needs to be an absolute NO NO.
- Free education to girls till post graduation.
- Do not marry girls into households having only male child or having majority male child. Chances are they might have sinned on what we have been discussing. With this some innocents will suffer but it’s a start atleast to ensure people realise having girls is just as important as having boys.
- Extra benefits for homes having only girl children. Like Tax benefits or daily commodities for cheaper prices as compared to homes having male child or only male child.
- Finally, time men stand up to their parents who advice them against having girl child. Tell them to take a hike. Warn them you will not take care of them when they need you.
I know some of what I said may sound harsh. But if you do not take these harsh and strong steps now we would have succumbed to this evil and many more thriving on women. Sati, dowry system, girl child murder, female fetus murder … just how many more rapes do you think this sex can take.
She will love you the most
She will learn from you the most
Just let her live for she is the girl child who is asking you to want her the most.