We all know and it is a cliché that we Indians are very warm, friendly and affectionate. We care about the people we know and in certain occasions we tend to care about people we do not know. We are a bit of an extroverts regarding the issues and matters related to the people we know. We have an inclination towards finding out the cheerful, sorrowful and problematic situations of the people there after enjoying, empathizing and solving them respectively.
All of this is completely unintentional and is out of love towards the people. But, unfortunately not everyone can understand this love and care which we shower on them in all aspects of their life but, in turn they tend to feel morally offensive, insulted and as an act of breaking through their privacy and personal life.
As far as my experience is concerned and the circumstances I have faced with, in accordance with the issues (Good or bad) related to me, the people whom I know and also the ones whom I barely know turned out to be a bit unaccepted. Most often people tend to share their happy moments with others without asking them. Also we could force them or try and get to know these happy moments.
Having said this, there can be certain limitations that could be set for our own welfare and also to maintain a good relationship with others. Now it is time to shift the state of cliché that we Indians besides being very friendly and showering love by enjoying others happiness and by solving others sorrows, problems in all the ways possible, also understand that a person will have a private and personal issues which he would not prefer to be discussed unless he/she feels comfortable.
Here are few examples of rules and limitations I would follow conforming to the subject of this article.
- If a person has written an exam, I would never ask his/her result and marks.
- If a person is not married and it is the high time, I would never ask him/her about the plans of getting married.
- If a person is unemployed, I would never ask him/her about the information about their trials, the number of hits and fails.
- If a person is married and has not planned for kids yet, I would never ask them about his/her plans and time of them having kids.
- Finally, if a person has an idea about what blogging is, I would never ask him/her if he/she has written a blog or is he/she planning to write one or I would not force him/her to blog some or read one.
I would be happy to discuss in these kinds of situations unless they themselves pick on a conversation regarding their issues. Thank you. I know I am trying to be an intelligent Indian trying hard to follow these set of rules and more, to ensure ones comfort while having a conversation with me and I am sure you will as well
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Note: When I speak “WE”, it does not cater to everyone but only the ones who possess the traits I am talking about.