Body language messages are sent automatically and unconsciously. Women send approximately five times more body language messages and gestures than men in the same time period. Body language has proven to be our most reliable indicator of how others feel about us.
Know how unconsciously you are sending signals through your body language.
Resting Hands Behind the Head or on the Hips
Usually interpreted as a sign of superiority or bigheadedness.
Increasing Your Rate of Blinking
A clear sign of anxiety. Some people start blinking their eyes really fast (in conjunction with an increased heart rate) when they get nervous. Since most people try to make eye contact, it becomes immediately obvious to others.
Not Directly Facing the Person You’re Speaking To
This indicates a certain level of discomfort or a lack of interest. When we’re happily engaged in a conversation we face the person we’re speaking to with our feet and torso facing directly forward. When we’re unsure of the other person, or not completely committed to the conversation, we tend to angle our feet and torso to the side
Crossing Your Arms
A sign of defensive resistance. Some people may also interpret it as a sign of self-centeredness.
Displaying a Sluggish Posture
When you’re in an environment bustling with people your posture becomes an immediate telltale sign of your confidence and composure. Your stance literally makes a stand for you, delivering a clear message about how you should be treated. It can make a huge difference in the way strangers respond to you. Place your feet a comfortable distance apart, keep your shoulders pulled back, head up and greet people with direct eye contact and a firm handshake.
Scratching at the Backside of Your Head and Neck
A typical sign of doubt and uncertainty. It can also be interpreted as an indication of lying. Try to keep your hands away from your head when you’re communicating with others.
Messing With the Collar of Your Shirt
It screams: “I feel horribly uncomfortable and/or nervous!”
Slouching Your Shoulders
Indicates low self-esteem. People associate perked-up shoulders with strong self-confidence. Always pull your shoulders back. Not only will you look more confident, you’ll feel more confident as well.
Standing with Your Hands Crossed Over Your Genitals
This casual posture almost guarantees that you’ll lose a little respect before you even have the chance to speak a single word. People feeling nervous or unsure of themselves will unconsciously take this position. This stance pushes your shoulders forward and makes your entire body look smaller and weaker.
Propping Up Your Head With Your Hands
“I’m getting bored!” Never prop up your head with your elbows and hands during a conversation. Place your hands on the table in front of you and keep them at rest.
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